Watch: Rejected by Family? TikTok Group Offers Support for LGBTQ People

by Kilian Melloy

EDGE Staff Reporter

Thursday December 30, 2021

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If mom and dad refuse to be there for your wedding to the partner of your dreams, or to take part in some other big moment in your life because you're LGBTQ+, there's a compassionate group of friends you probably haven't met yet that's waiting to hear from you.

A TikTok group is reaching out to LGBTQ+ people who have experienced familial rejection — and offering to sub in for weddings, holiday celebrations, or help in hard times, political news site The Hill reported.

Daniel Blevins, a hairdresser who live sin Tennessee, "co-created the Facebook group 'TikTok Stand In Families,' which now has nearly 30,000 members," The Hill detailed. He also appears in a viral video that originated at TikTok, in which he tells LGBTQ+ people who have been cast out of their families that they don't have to be alone for birthdays, weddings, or other celebratory events.

"If you are a same sex couple that's getting married and you do not have biological parents there to support you, please let me know," Blevins says in the video, The Hill relayed.

"If I'm not able to attend your wedding, I have friends that will," Blevins adds. "We have a big network, and it just continues to grow, of moms and dads that want to be a part of your big day."

Or, for that matter, your holidays. Or your birthday. Or your graduation. Any moment when there's a vacuum left by family that's chosen to be absent in the life of an LGBTQ+ person, Blevins' group is willing to step in.

But the group isn't only there for the good times. According to Blevins, "the group has also evolved on its own into a virtual support network and a safe space for those seeking friends, family and overall support," NBC News noted.

That means the group is willing to help when times are tough, too.

"Many of our members text or talk to each other when they need someone," Blevins told NBC News. "Especially with COVID, a lot of people are just lonely. Being cut off from your family because you came out ... the pandemic only adds to that loneliness."

"Your chosen family can sometimes be better than your biological family," Blevins went on to say. "Just know that you are not alone. If you need someone and want that connection, we can help you through the group."

That also means times when people are facing not just loneliness, but danger. Blevins "shared an instance in which members helped a group member escape a domestic violence situation," the news site detailed.

"They actually got them from the Midwest to the East Coast safely," Blevins recounted. "I'm in contact with them a couple times a week, and they are doing amazing. That was all because of the group."

To see Blevins' TikTok video, follow this link.

Kilian Melloy serves as EDGE Media Network's Associate Arts Editor and Staff Contributor. His professional memberships include the National Lesbian & Gay Journalists Association, the Boston Online Film Critics Association, The Gay and Lesbian Entertainment Critics Association, and the Boston Theater Critics Association's Elliot Norton Awards Committee.